Chaos happens in the home and on the playground, as well as in the boardroom; but incivility is costly. When a family member, a friend, or a co-worker feels disrespected, efficacy decreases and strife increases. So how do we calm the chaos with influential leadership? I have some tips!
“To lead people, walk beside them. When the best leaders’ work is done, the people say, ‘We did it ourselves!'” —Lao Tzu
Healthy communication: Model listening and responding instead of waiting to share. Leaders see the big picture and are able to regulate tone and body language. Contribution is key. Ask your people – family, friends, and employees how to fix the issues, share the answers, and give credit to all who worked toward the solution.
Boundary Setting: Model knowing that personal life stays personal. Be it family, friends, or employees, everyone needs privacy and the ability to set boundaries. People need to be needed, respected, and trusted to do what they have been taught without being micromanaged- even young people.
Self-Care: Model and encourage self-care. When self-care is prioritized, communication, performance, and emotional regulation improves. Recognize over resist!
Teamwork: Model and promote teamwork. Families, friendships, and companies thrive when individuals use their natural talents to help the big picture come together.
Vison: Model and guide others to follow through with their vision. Connect your people with tasks and values that represent them, so they feel purpose when participating in the family, friendship, or company. Close minded leaders close minds.
“Self-awareness and self-love matter. Who we are is how we lead.”
-Brené Brown